Accidental Counselor

on my way to recovery, something funny happened to me along the way..i've become an accidental counselor to others going through heartbreak. I have become a caregiver to my fellow walking wounded. How can i tell them I am still undergoing the process of healing. For some selfish reasons, i considered "dating" more fun than counseling. so that was my personal therapy. i cannot tell them when the hurting will stop because i still have bad days myself, when i have nightmares or when i wake up feeling a heaviness i can't shake off. i cannot tell them why their relationships ended because i still can't understand what went wrong with mine. so i mouth off to them the same things i keep telling myself - that i deserve to be loved for myself and that i can be happy again. but don't ever ask me what that really means... 2/19/07