Tuesday, April 24, 2012
What Access to Justice Means to PWDs and Women
Tuesday, April 17, 2012
Black Lace
br />twirls and curls
intricately meshed
dark lattice
concealing a treasure within;
mere surface cover
for what it can reveal,
I see, knowing
something more lies beneath.
It holds my attention
as my fingers are caught,
my hands are met
by a pleasant surprise,
confirming my deepest hopes,
and obliging the best
of my imagination. GPL 10/10/11
intricately meshed
dark lattice
concealing a treasure within;
mere surface cover
for what it can reveal,
I see, knowing
something more lies beneath.
It holds my attention
as my fingers are caught,
my hands are met
by a pleasant surprise,
confirming my deepest hopes,
and obliging the best
of my imagination. GPL 10/10/11
Much Ado about "Real Women"
All this talk about the Ms. Universe contest and the Canadian transgender has got me riled up lately. This morning, my favorite morning show began a discussion on it and I heard comments like "they might get undue advantage", "they have their own beauty contests anyway", and "it will privilege cosmetic surgery-enhanced over natural beauty", etc. They also criticized Donald Trump and his crew for seemingly issuing a "too quick, and reactionary" retraction by allowing a transgender contestant. But they are totally missing the point: organizers of the Ms. Universe pageant understood it's all about equal chances, opening up opportunities to all who are qualified, to compete fair and square based on the agreed criteria of beauty, poise and intelligence.
A few years ago, our NGO was doing a research project on lesbian health. An interview with no less than the president of the professional association of obstetricians and gynecologists revealed that "they have no programs and services for lesbians because they are different from women". This, from a licensed medical doctor herself. Hello? Any second year high school student taking up basic biology would tell you lesbians have female reproductive organs. Yes, believe it or not, we still have the same equipment and can make it work if we choose to!
Recently, I was in Geneva attending the special session on sexual orientation and gender identity (SOGI) at the United Nations Human Rights Council. A side event organized by the Holy See was an obvious objection to the SOGI initiative by the UN Secretary-General and UN High Commissioner on Human Rights herself. Speakers started talking about "traditional values" and the importance of "family" and "protecting children". What got to me was they kept emphasizing the alleged "role" of women in relation to men - that they are wives, mothers, daughters, sisters, etc.; that they have a "responsbility" to bear children and care for the family, as if this was how "gender equality" was supposed to be interpreted. Under this flawed perception, women are considered to have no autonomy whatsoever, no right to self-determination, and as such, no right to bodily intergrity as well. So, if you are not a wife or a mother, but a barrren or sterile woman, or simply a single woman, do you no longer have any relevance at all to society? What was more bothersome was the fact that their arguments and reasoning were all based on a woman's biology.
Which brings us to the issue of "what makes a woman"? Is being a woman all about one's biology - simple anatomy and physiology? Does that "biology" stem only from what you are "naturally" born with, or could it include what medical science and technology can give you after considerable pain and financial expense?
Is being a person just about your ability to procreate? Or is a person's Being about his/her various needs, wants, and desires? Isn't our Life a totality of our human experience - one's dreams and aspirations, his/her knowledge, skills, and talents, what we do and what we give to others? Isn't this what makes us human beings after all?
A woman to me is someone who can love a partner with such loyalty, commitment, and passion that comes with being a lifetime companion. A woman is someone who can love and care for a child with all her heart and selfless devotion regardless of whether the child is borne of her womb or not. A woman is someone who can handle trials and adversity with such strength and calm because she puts her family's needs first. A woman to me is someone who can face all this discrimination and negativity with such grace and poise, never stooping so low to a detractor's level.
This brings to mind an LGBT feature a long time ago. It was a TV interview of a young boy raised by a lesbian couple. When asked what he thought of not having a "male role model" in the household and missing his biological father, he answered: "My real father abandoned us when I was still a baby. He didn't want to marry my mother. It was my mom's subsequent lesbian partner who supported us financialy, raised me and sent me to school. What better example of being a responsible "man" should I have?"
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